You Can Still Win!
By Andre Taylor
I find it
disheartening to see people who, when faced with life’s battles,
decide to give up and retreat when I know that despite all that is
happening, no matter how painful it feels, they can prevail. When
confronted with the toughest moments in your life, you can’t afford
to succumb to fear, anger, or self-pity, yet it is easy to do so.
You just want it to be over, and you wonder why this terrible
setback had to happen to you. But you have to put those thoughts and
feelings aside and re-focus your mind and your efforts on creating
success. There’s really no other option if you want to succeed.
Rarely do people
become successful painlessly and quickly, although there are the
occasional exceptions. Perhaps you’re acquainted with some of these
individuals. They’re accepted into the right schools. Doors open
to high-paying jobs. Soon after starting a job, they become a top
performer, or are promoted to a senior position. Their company
rockets to success. They start a business and it booms. But for
most people, it doesn’t happen that way. It takes time to figure
out what direction to move in, whether working toward a personal,
career, or business goal. There’s a learning curve. Usually it’s
only after years of effort that there’s finally an understanding of
what it takes to achieve your goals. There are many, many attempts
to do the right things and make the right connections. In the
interim, there are missteps, setbacks, and times where it doesn’t
look like it will happen at all. Sometimes the setbacks are big and
hard to recover from – but you can recover. Trust me.
I have recovered
time and time again. Whenever I start to feel down about the
challenges I face, I remind myself that I am playing in the greatest
sporting event of all time. It’s called life. There’s no place where
there is greater action or suspense. And there’s no limit to the
potential rewards. Like the sporting events we watch on television
or at the stadium, it’s the team or person who has the best vision,
the most thorough preparation, the best skills, and the greatest
determination that will win. In some of life’s contests, you may
only need one of these elements to be the winner.
There may be
something you’re working on, some achievement that isn’t yet
happening. You may be pursuing a career and find that you’re
receiving rejection after rejection. You may have a business that
you haven’t figured out yet. You may have a small operation and find
yourself competing in a field of giants. You may have a sales job
that you enjoy, yet your performance is not up to par. You may
encounter a number of problems, downturns, and difficult
circumstances. You may be relying on savings, credit, or the
generosity of family and friends to keep yourself afloat. You may be
behind in your bill payments, or facing foreclosure, bankruptcy, or
eviction. Here’s what I want you to understand, regardless of your
is not a sign of incompetence.
is not a sign of irresponsibility.
is not a sign of destiny.
does not deserve punishment.
does not deserve pity.
is not fatal.
is definitely not final.
challenges may be uncomfortable — sometimes very uncomfortable — but
setbacks and challenges don’t have to be the last word. I am not
trained as a psychologist, but I do know a thing or two about
problems and setbacks – I’ve had hundreds. And I can tell you that
you have the ability to change your situation.
As someone with a
life full of challenges, I consider myself in great company. Each
day, millions face difficult moments. Some stay there. Others learn,
develop, make change, and improve their results. I have always been
and will always be one of the latter.
You have to be
honest with yourself and say, “No I didn’t get where I want,” No I’m
on the wrong track,” “No I have a distance to travel.” If you do,
and take the right actions, you will get where you want to go,
because “You Can Still Win!”
is the author of “You Can Still Win!: Break Through, Bounce
Back, Come From Behind And Flourish. He’s the chief executive of
Taylor Insight a New York-based leadership development firm helping
individuals, growing businesses and other organizations lead and
win. He's held executive positions on Wall Street, led the marketing
activities of multi-national organizations, and built successful
entrepreneurial companies. Get “You Can Still Win!” and free
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