Confidence Doesn't Come in a Title
By Monica Wofford
Brandon had been up all night. He
had tossed and turned over today's decision about his promotion.
Would he get the job? Would he again be passed over? If he got the
job, was he good enough to DO a good job and so on. Brandon has
worked in the sales division for two years and this promotion is
exactly what he's wanted and worked for over the last two years.
Finally now, he may be given the chance and yet he is not sure he is
ready to head up the entire department.
Getting promoted just means you get
a bigger title. It does not mean that those who bestow the new
responsibilities also grant you a bigger set of well ... confidence.
The reality is that confidence might lead to a promotion, but so do
a lot of other things. Have you ever seen someone receive a title to
the next level whose sole qualification was that they had been there
the longest or that they were the only ones left who could possibly
do the job? Or perhaps politics played a role. Confidence doesn't
come with the job, but in order to do it well and lead others on a
team that you have just been promoted over, you will have to be
confident in what you are doing and how.
Confidence is a key factor in
leading those on a team toward a purpose and with purpose. Those who
are promoted because of something other than skills end up leading
rather by accident, rather than on purpose. In order to increase
your confidence to facilitate a more intentional leadership style,
try these exercises:
Sit in the Front Row:
Sitting up front in a meeting, a
class, or theoretically in life, builds confidence. Those who sit in
the back to avoid being noticed, lack confidence. What would they do
and how would they handle it if they did get noticed? People notice
those who are successful and those who are successful leaders. If
you sit in the front row, it will not only get noticed, but help you
feel comfortable and more confident in the role.
Make more eye contact:
"When you lock eyes with
another, it not only builds confidence, but it will win you
confidence" says David Schwartz, author of the Magic of Thinking
Big. Often when you avoid eye contact, you send a message that you
feel inferior to the person or are intimidated by the person.
Conquer that fear and find their eyes.
Walk as if you have somewhere to
be: Psychologists connect
sluggish and slow walking with a downward and depressed mood or
unpleasant attitude toward oneself, but they also tell us you can
change your mood by changing your physical body posture. Throw your
shoulders back, lift your head high and move ahead a little faster.
You will feel more confident and look more confident in your
Speak your mind:
Those who are unsure of themselves
or their own opinions tend to freeze when faced with conversation in
which they must state an opinion.. If you are telling yourself that
what you say probably won't matter anyway, you'll never get the
chance to test that theory. Make an effort to speak up voluntarily
at every meeting. Chances are you won't look foolish, but rather
build your confidence. For each person who might disagree with your
opinion, there will be others who agree and support you.
Smile in a big way as it is one of
the best medicines for a confidence deficiency. It is real hard to
feel bad or down when you have a big smile plastered across your
face. Yet those who insist that this doesn't work refuse to try just
smiling to see the change in their mood. A real smile melts away
opposition from others, helps build rapport and will boost your
level of confidence in the situation, not to mention your mood.
There is no need to walk fast, with
a huge grin, a loud voice, with big eyes on the front row every
minute of every day. That would be silly, yet in moderation each of
the above exercises will help you boost your confidence level in the
face of responsibilities you are not sure you can handle just yet.
As a new leader, the amount of confidence others have in you can be
just as important as your belief in yourself. Actively learn your
role, while giving yourself and others a belief that you will get it
all under control and handled, and they will follow you anywhere.
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